LOVE THE WAY YOU LOOK IN 3 EASY STEPS – A guest post by Luke Havard

Unless you get surgery or live in the gym, the way you are aesthetically designed is the way you’re supposed to look. Learn to accept it in a positive way & decide that you will be grateful for the way your body looks and functions! Make a decision, that instead of wasting energy worrying or even hating certain aspects of body you will reinvest that energy in to the process of enjoying & experiencing life in all its fullness!



 The way you look is unique to you. It’s not a weakness; it’s your greatest strength! There’s no one else like you anywhere in the world & there never will be! Don’t compare yourself to anyone else, for two reasons; firstly, for every person that you feel inadequate next to there is someone else who would feel that way stood next to you! Seriously, as bad as you may think that you have got it, there is always someone worse off! Secondly the reason that people who are confident in their own skin are often very sought after people, is because genuine self-esteem and confidence is a very attractive quality. Those people have consciously tapped into the fact that their individual uniqueness is their most valuable selling point and they work it like a pro! The more that you relax in your own skin, the more others will warm to you as you relax.

 Another important aspect of self-esteem and confidence is to honor your body; treat your body as a temple. In essence what I’m saying, it’s important to train and look after your body as neglecting your body will lead to lack of energy, becoming over weight and even suffering from ill health. Looking after your body and training is good for you, unfortunately people can get this part completely out of balance. Instead of honoring the life that the body is designed to facilitate they start worshiping the idea of perfection. Their perfect body becomes their answer to happiness. But this doesn’t equate to more self-esteem or happiness, this actually makes people hyper sensitive to their own imperfections, no matter how small they be!

 Keeping healthy and training regularly whilst incorporating a balanced life style will certainly improve and maximize your physical potential as well as creating opportunity to socialize and meet new people, which are both positive aspects which help to improve self-esteem and confidence! Make an effort, not a masterpiece! When we take time to look and dress our best, eat a balanced diet, being mindful and deliberate about enhancing our personal appearance (without obsessing over it) we feel great because we have been intentional about looking our best. Looking our best is important, but remember it’s not the be all and end all of self-esteem and confidence it’s just a part of what makes us confident!



I can write about this subject with complete confidence and clarity because I have a great amount of experience in this area. My physical appearance is something that I struggled with for years, even becoming obsessed with training in the gym convinced that I was skinny, to the point that I was weighing in at 104 KG of muscle! Only years later have I truly learnt to accept & love my body. Whilst speaking to other men in the gym who are still struggling with the same hang ups in their 40’s, I know that this is a massive issue that impacts both men and women! Over the years I have really learnt to make the most of every area of my person & I’m learning about different facets I have all the time that I didn’t recognize as strengths before.

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